********Talk of intimacy and sexuality *******
I told Therapist recently that I didn’t think the problem was with my marriage; it was with me. While the trouble with my marriage isn’t that it’s all me, all of it has to do with me. I don’t know any more if I dislike Husband, or I just want to be with someone else. I know for sure I don’t want to be married again, and I long for the days when we become independent and self-sufficient. And that will happen this semester when we are done with student teaching, we graduate, and enter the work force (hopefully).
The issue is more complicated. The issue is I want to be with a woman, not a man. Every time I am *with* Husband, I feel sullied and unclean. Recently we were intimate and I started crying the tears of a child half way through. When Husband had finished, the tears wouldn’t stop. We curled up and sobbed. Husband said he was sorry, but we commented that even though he’s sorry he keeps doing it; he keeps asking for it. He said it made it him feel like an abuser. And yet, he keeps asking. And that makes us look at him like an abuser, which makes intimacy even more difficult.
There is a woman in the vast outer reaches of our life with whom we are attracted. And it seems she is attracted to us. We saw her yesterday, and she hugged us twice. We get butterflies in the stomach when we think of her. And we think of her a lot.
And that is that. It’s complicated. Not all of us are on board with being with a woman. Leaving Husband? Maybe. But not because a woman is involved.
But, cheers to complications and shutting my eyes! They make the inertia of this life seem even less tolerable. *insert sarcasm*
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