Potential triggers: Read with caution.
I hadn’t planned on posting today, but the urge hit me, so here we are. I’m exhausted physically and mentally. Still in PHP. I sigh because things aren’t going the way I want for my recovery. We’ve been doing well up till now when we are starting to be non-compliant. It’s baffling, but so is my eating disorder. We were 100% compliant with the meal plan while in-patient; now that we are responsible for evening snack and breakfast we can’t seem to get “it” together. Having poor body image sucks. I know others can relate. Life would be so much easier if we could eat healthy but not gain weight. Pardon the pun, but I want my cake and to eat it to. Why can’t I have it all? In this case, I can’t and that has to be a reality. I must choose recovery and try to get everyone on board with the plan.
So we’ve noticed weight gain. Clothes fit differently. The hollows of the cheek are now filled in. We aren’t as weak and dizzy as we were before. This is preached about as progress. It sure as Hell doesn’t feel that way. I don’t know where to go from here. If I’m in recovery I need to stop listening to my inner critics. The truth of all truths is that I hate the way my body is shaped. The weight never goes to my chest, but it settles all along my ass, thighs, and hips. I hate it. How can I love something so offensive? How will I every get better?
There are at least two members that have the eating disorder. I would bet money that they are the ones perforating me with negative comments. I can’t hate them; they are coping the only way they know how. But I feel the 2 and 1/2 weeks I spent in patient they were more “inside” and they only criticized. Now that we are out and have more freedom, the alters have rebounded and are exerting their influence over our food by restricting. I’ve tried to talk with them, allow them to use the journal; I don’t know what to do anymore.
What can I say? We are a work in progress, and there’s no shame in that. Times like these I abhor myself and hate myself for even breathing. I feel like a screw up and can’t find anything nice to say to myself. I can’t counter the intrusive thoughts. I get angrier at the fact that I’ve lost time. So many gaps during the day. Pardon the pun…again….but my plate is full, full of hateful words and libel accusations. I hate myself and I don’t know why. I want this post to be over with. And so it shall.