I need help stopping my downward spiral. I know of at least one alter that is suicidal; some are apathetic, and others don’t want to die this fat.
The last statement is really silly, I know. But that is how this mind works. I cancelled my therapy appointment today because I didn’t feel pretty enough to put on my nice dresses, which, incidentally, make me feel more attractive and like I want to wear my maxi dresses.
I’ve had a hysterectomy and I have no idea where I am on the cycle (they left my ovaries), but I think I’m PMSing because of the emotional fluctuations and the sensations in my chest. Tenderness in my boobies! There I said it.
I’ve been in bed all day, save for going to the kitchen to eat. My alters and I have to be on the same page because it feels like we are working for different things.
I keep a card inside my journal that reads this way (bear with me): I beg you…to have patience with everything unresolved in your heard and try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked in rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don’t search for the answes, which could not be given you now, because you would not be able to live them, and the point is, to live everything, live the questions now, perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually without noticing it, live your way into the answer. ~ rainer maria rilke
I read this card at moments like this because I am totally unaware of my outside surroundings or my internal landscape. I don’t know why I act the way I do or think the things I though. And I feel like a little baby in a highchair, plastic utensils in both hands, and banging on the tray table (thank you Victoria!) demanding, “We want answers now! We want answers now!” I wouldn’t hate the child, just the behavior, and I need to look at us that way; we may not collectively or individually have the answers as to why we can’t get our of bed, but there is a valid reason and we will “live our way into the answer.”
I sound all hopefull and optimistic. Bunch of bull shit. One of the alters was really thinking about death earlier. She has the patches she needs. A half-cocked plan is formed, but we would hate for our current weight to be listed on the death certificate. So if we lose fourty pounds we might be safe. I truly don’t know what I weigh. I do know the dietitian, who was supposed to call me after I e-mailed her multiple times, never followed up with me and I’ve written her off. It’s very professional and I would rather fuck it up cross country and back than have her as dietitian. I know I needed one.
My brain is so fucking tired I couldn’t figure out what to eat if I had every restaurant and grocery store at my disposal.
Fatigue. When have I not been so damn depressed and lethargic? But no one can help me out. Sad, sad, sad part is I want out. These are the moment that paralyze my breath and choke off all meaning to life. The only time I’m every really happy is when I’m starving or burning myself.
Burning is an addictive coping mechanism. Used to be cutting for me. It would only take a little trickle of blood and I would feel relief and satisfied. Then it moved on to severing veins and leaving huge, purple scars that would garner attention between disgust and disgust. I literally had a picture that I would hand out to people asking them to keep it because the view would last longer.
Burning seems a whole new level of self harm. Cuts, depending on how hollow, can heal up quicly and aren’t messy in the healing process. I’m staring at my left wrist and it’s pretty messed up. How sick am I for saying that I am ashamed for all the flicks of razor blade or knife, but the flame is a badge of honor, a symbol of courage. Almost like anorexia. Not everyone can do it; it takes a certain masochistic personality to refuse food, especially when you love food.
My stomach hurts as it is and I feel depressed. Sorry to be such a downer.