Friedrich Nietzsche said, “Nothing on earth consumes a man more quickly than the passion of resentment.”

This was the quote for my daily mediation today. I have to admit I’ve fallen prey to resenting the majority of my life and those who’ve played a role in its demise.

It’s natural to resent being hurt, but if I’m TRULY honest with myself, I’ve made a career out of resenting those that have dishonored me and abused me. But I don’t know how to not be angry and resentful.

Those people hurt me deeply, seemingly irrevocably. How do you get over that? How do you get beyond the anger and resentment? More therapy, indeed.

I’m calling myself out about being eaten alive with hate, anger and resentment. I realize this only halts my progress into a world where I can fully live without being triggered by the anything and everything. People on the outside would never know how damaged I am inside because I put on a front. I have members who are responsible for interacting in the real world. But I’m not at peace and never will be until we can let go.

As I write this it sounds to familiar to the post we wrote about forgiveness. Bad topic. I won’t forgive, so if forgiveness means I have to let go of the anger and resentment, then tough shit.

But maybe it’s not mutually exclusive. Maybe we can still let go of anger and not forgive. Anger is just a warning sign that something has hurt us. I don’t even know what I’m angry at, just that I’m angry. To be honest, and I know some of the blogging community thinks this is bull shit, but I have a member dedicated to anger. It is her job to hold the anger; it’s her defense mechanism and the way she keeps people at arms length.

I know she can protect us through other means, but the anger is so much easier for her to revert to. Not everybody is out to get us.

But I’m off track and my thoughts are easily being tumbled and foggy. The issue on the table is letting go of anger and resentment. Anger is a message that something isn’t right, and we’ve gotten the message. The abuse wasn’t right, but we can’t go back in time. And anger can’t be fixed just by acknowleding that the abuse wasn’t our fault. So we honestly don’t know where to go with this post. We don’t know how to get rid of the anger.

Maybe it’s something time takes care of. Maybe acknowledging the abuse wasn’t our fault will stop us from punishing ourselves, but that takes time. Feelings of guilt, anger, resentment are all tied together. How to untie them is a good question. Moving forward depends on handling the anger towards our abusers, ourselves, and the world.

I find this post flabbergasting. I started it out with one angle on anger, feeling I had answers, and now I’ve done a 180 degree turn. I don’t know how I feel or what it will take to let the anger go. I’ve confused myself.

Anyone have any thoughts?